Forgiveness is Huge

 Forgiveness is a huge word and it takes such courage to be a forgiving person, especially if you have been wronged.  When someone has totally betrayed your trust, or have lied ... etc. etc.

When you have been dealt with unfairly it is reasonable to believe that you have every right to hold a grudge or to speak unkindly to that person or about that person.    BUT, is it to your betterment to do so?

If you have ever been in one of those situations, you understand all too well the emotional turmoil that it causes.  You will go from shock, to tears, to anger and then back to shock and tears, bouncing from one emotion to another, believing that you will never be able to reach a point of forgiveness.

It may help to know that to forgive another person for their misconduct is not letting them off the hook.  They still have to deal with themselves.  To forgive is to help YOU get on with YOUR life.

When you come to the point where YOUR sanity and happiness is worth more than than your anger toward the other person, you will then be a self healer.  Let the other person carry their own burden, don't carry their negativity.  Create your world of happiness without them.  Create your world of peace and let them be in their own space of personal learning.

What you are learning, is how to LET GO and LET GOD.  Some things are just not in your domain to understand or to fix, it is something that has to run its course.

Direct your thoughts toward who you want to be and how you want to live your life.  Don't jump into the life of the person that has hurt you, that will make your life cramped.  There is only room for who you are and who you are can only be found within.  Stop looking at the pain and the sickness that was created and is felt and look toward your inner paradise where the Spirit of God resides.

Forgiveness (like was stated above) is a huge, huge word that only you can create.  No one can take the hurt away, no one can MAKE you happy, no one can change what happened or change the person that brought about your hurt feelings.  Only you are in charge of your emotional well being, only you can heal those wounds.

Be a healer, a healer of yourself and of the situation.  Do it for you.

As always, I encourage your comments at cindalmiller@gmail.com